The first time I ever remember dealing with mean girls was in mid elementary school. I was born in Illinois but my family moved to Minnesota right after 4th grade started. I was friends with some girls that later decided they didn't like me anymore. Their bus stop was around the corner from mine and they constantly harassed me and called me names.
It was the first time I realized that not everyone was going to be my friend. And some girls would be out to hurt me.
In junior high a girl that I was really good friends with decided she didn't like me anymore. I can't remember why. But at one point in 9th grade I got an anonymous email that said some pretty hurtful things. Things that only someone who knew me would know to say, someone who knew they'd cut me deep. I later found out it was this girl. Unfortunately, I retaliated by turning our group of friends against her. I'm ashamed to say I was a mean girl right back.
Luckily, years later she sought me out and apologized, to which I was able to apologize for my part as well.
But these stories don't always have happy endings.
I've been part of the blog world for years and I've always been lucky to know some really great, kind people. I'd heard instances of mean girls and cliques but I hadn't really experienced either.
Until a few days ago.
I won't go into details. It's not really important. But what I don't understand is why grown women would waste their time and go out of their way to publicly attack someone that they don't like. Don't they have better things to do? Why waste time being petty and mean when you could be doing something good. Some of them have children, which really discourages me. In this time where bullying seems to be at an all time high shouldn't we be doing everything we can to show that bullying is wrong?
Unfortunately I hastily said something I shouldn't have, which I then deleted. However, what I said shouldn't have brought on the negativity it did. I don't like what I did. But bullying me for days? Sigh.
I'm not writing this to shame everyone. I know a time or two I myself have been a mean girl. I'm quick to anger and I don't always watch what I say.
But I am using this situation for a call to action.