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Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Embarrassing Moment

Before I get into a very embarrassing moment of mine, I just wanted to tell all of you asking about what getting a domain name entails. If you click the SITS Girls link on my last post, it'll take you right the explanation of how you'd get a domain name if you're on Blogger. I use Blogger and it was super duper easy. And all of my publishing tools are still here so basically EVERYTHING stayed the same EXCEPT for my website name. Easy peasy! And at $10 A YEAR a super good deal!


I've been asked more than once to tell about one of my embarrassing moments and I always respond that I try hard to keep myself from getting embarrassed. However, I suddenly remembered a time that makes me blush just thinking of it. So I'm going to tell it all to you now.

In December 2002, when I was 19, I lost my virginity. I'd only been with the guy for a month but I was crazy about him. To this day, I don't regret that decision. However, it was a weird time for me. Although I was in love and although I liked having sex, part of me missed being a little bit of a good girl. It was weird to think that I was no longer a virgin. Eventually, though, I moved past that and loved being in the place I was in.

Shortly after that first time I went home for Christmas. THAT was a strange time for me. It was my first longer vacation home from college (I was a freshman, I'd turned 19 in September) and I was having a difficult time being back under my parents' roof. Especially when my boyfriend was 23 and I wanted to spend time with him. I don't remember a whole lot from that time at home but I do remember fighting with my parents and wanting to be anywhere but at the house.

One of the first nights I was home my boyfriend and I went out and bought condoms. He gave some to me so that I could take them back with me to school. When I got home that night I put them in my underwear drawer. My parents never went through my things and I felt relatively safe putting them there.

And for awhile, everything was fine. Shortly after Christmas, though, I made a big mistake. There was a night when I was working and then afterward planned on going on a double date with my boyfriend, best friend and her boyfriend. When I left the house that day, I grabbed some extra things I would need to freshen up, including some of my mom's blush. I was forever borrowing my mom's things (clothes and makeup) without asking her. It drove her nuts but I did it anyway.

Halfway through work, my mom called me and she was mad. She wanted to know where her blush was. At the time, I'd forgotten that I'd taken it with me. I apologized for taking it and told her it was probably in one of my drawers. I'd MEANT one of the drawers in my bathroom, never thinking that when she didn't find it there that she'd go looking in my bedroom. That's exactly what happened though. I was still at work, still forgetting that I had the blush with me. When she called again.

She told me that I had to come home after work. I was mad because she was wrecking my plans and wouldn't even tell me why, not to mention she was doing this while I was at work. I demanded she tell me why I had to come home and that's why she mentioned the condoms. Busted. Now, I was 19. And I was being safe about it. But my parents also worried about me. And I can imagine my mom was just a little freaked out. I BEGGED her not to tell my dad. It was one thing for her to know but I didn't even want my dad to think I was KISSING a guy, let alone anything else.

But she told him. And when I got home from work, I had to talk to both of them. Ugh, it was AWFUL! I remember thinking it was SO DAMN AWFUL. It's like sitting down and having the sex talk, only instead of just talking my parents knew exactly what I was doing. At one point my dad even asked if that was my boyfriend's Christmas present to me (they never liked this boyfriend). I was mortified.

I look back on that now, to a different person than I am now, and I remember my cheeks getting flame red, my heart pumping quickly, wanting to be anywhere else but in that moment. The funny thing is that these days I have issues talking about sex. I may not want to sit down with my folks and discuss my sex life but it's not the mortifying thing it used to be. However, back then it was definitely one of my most embarrassing moments. And to this day, even though I don't see sex as something mortifying, it still is.

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51 wonderful thoughts:

Helena - A Diary of Lovely

oooh I so feel you!!! but im sure something similar has happened to most of us :)

Debora Dennis

Oh yes, those fun sex talks with the parents. It's fun to look back though, isn't it?

So happy for you on the domain name btw - you'll love it. Makes it really feel like your own!

Happy Tuesday! :)

Ang

LOL! love the pic you posted with it too! toooooo funny.

Chana

Oh! It's so strange to have those kind of conversations with your parents! I'm getting red just thinking about it!

Naomi

Oh my! My parents were pretty lenient but that would have been terrible!! Pretty sure my Dad always stayed off that topic.

Sami

Oh man, that's a rough one. I never had anything like that happen, but I'm sure I'd be repressing it to this day!!

Brittany

LMAO! I remember having the sex talk with my sister.. shortly after they found out (while driving home) They pulled over in a parking lot and talked to me about.. I remember just saying that it hurt a lot.. and they both looked at me and said "It wont hurt for long!"

Now that I have more experience that sentence makes me laugh! lol ohhh sisters!

Meghan

oh boy... TOTALLY get this. my parents read my diary when i was 17... and there was a similar embarrassing conversation. except mine involved being grounded and forced into therapy (for having sex? still not understanding that one...) and things being thrown at the wall and screaming. YIKES!

Cafe Fashionista

Ohmigosh that is horrible. My friend had something similar happen to her; only she managed to convince her mom not to tell her dad. In fact, her mom thought it was somewhat humorous after finding out. She did, however, lecture her for awhile about hazards and such; but at least her dad was clueless to the whole situation!! :)

SogniSorrisi

Oh my gosh! That must not have been a fun talk at all.

daisychain

Oh goodness me!

Nikki

Too funny. Do they ever bring it up?

I had a similar experience when I came home from college for the weekend. My parents were out of town, so my bf and I stayed at their house. When I got back to school I got an email from my Dad saying that he knew college was a different lifestyle and speaking of "lifestyle" he found something under the bed and glad we were being safe.

The 2nd time he wondered if we used the hot tub. And when I said yes why? He said he found my bf's swim shorts on the deck. My only response was "I wore a bathing suit".

Rhiannon Nicole

I think I would have felt the same way. At least youw ere being safe and parents will always be parents girly! xx

naomemandeflores

How horrible!!! I'm so sorry for you! That must have been awful!

Very cute condoms in the pic!

Liz

Oh gosh, that's so messed up! I mean you were 19 for pete's sake what did they expect? lol.

The Gourmet Traveller

That's an embarrassing but quite humorous story (after the fact, I'm sure!)

Hutch

Oh my goodness, I can't even imagine! I still don't like talking to my parents about that stuff, luckily they never called me out on anything even when they knew I was on the pill!

Missy

wow your so brave to tell that story!

Missy
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THE ALTERNATIVE WIFE

WOW what a story! I had my share of awkward talks with my parents but they were nothing like yours! Thanks for sharing your painful story with us :)

Claire

Ha! That's funny! I come from one of those familys that didnt have the 'sex talks' not sure if that's a good thing but saved my blushes anyhoo!!
Those condoms in the pic are great!

Kimbirdy

oh god! the sex talk with the parents! that definitely sounded worse than the ole "when two people love each other..." talk. i would be mortified too! :)

Connie

ohh, there are just somethings you don't want to know you parents know. I remember when I moved into a dorm and the halls had different names, I was going to live in the angel hall, but while carrying my bed to the 3rd floor my dad saw virgin hall and said "It's good you aren't moving in there, you wouldn't fit in", I guess he knew more than I thought he did! My faced turned quite red as well.

OceanDreams

Oh wow I would have been embarrassed too for sure! It's unfortunate that your mom decided to dig through that particular drawer, too bad that she didn't find what she was looking for in the bathroom instead, lol. Glad that you are past that point now though and glad the domain worked out!

Jess

Oh gosh that is the last thing you want the parents to know at that age. I remember when my mum found my prescription for the pill when I was 18. It was just so awkward!

Caity

I had a similar talk with my mother when I was 18. It was such an awkward and horrible talk. I'm glad to know that I wasn't alone. <3

Salt

Oh thank goodness I never got a sitdown under circumstances like that. I don't care how old you are, that is SO awkward!

I'm sure my mom must have had a "talk" with me at some point, but thankfully I've blocked it from my memory.

Meghan

Oh wow! I would have DIED! But hey - look at how far we've all come now, right??? :)

Audrey Allure

Haha, aw. I'm still uncomfortable talking about sex with my parents too. It's even more awkward when they use old slang terms! lmao

Candice

I'm pretty sure my parents still think I'm a virgin even though I have given birth to 2 kids.

What they don't know won't hurt them. ;)

The Zhush

Dreading having to be the Mom on the other end of those talks one day...dreading! :)

Wild and Precious

i just realized i wasn't a follower!! eeks.
have no fear -- I am now!

have a great night!

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kelly ann

oh my gosh! how awful. just... so much awkwardness. hahaha.

jozen

ohmygoodness! i thought it was only me that had issues discussing sex. i am so glad to know that i am not the only one.

thank you so much for sharing your story, even though i'm sure it was hard for you to do so.

Stephany

Oh, this is hilarious! I'm sure it wasn't at the time. Believe me. I've been there.

Contrary to my good girl image, I had to have The Talk with my dad after he caught me looking at porn.

Yup.

Now that? Is embarrassing!!!

Michelle Pixie

My mom never wanted to talk about it so I never had to worry. Bu I can imagine all your 19 year old self wanted to do is run screaming. I talk sex with my kiddos {age appropriate of course} now so hopefully we can avoid those situations of awkwardness. I am hoping anyway. ;-)

Nicole Marie

ahhh oh my gosh i would literally die!!!!

the "L" spot

ohmy! thankfully my mom never had "the sex talk" with me! At least you were 19 and not 16!!

Nicole

I dont think THAT convo could EVER be good. I remember mine! I was so upset that my mom felt the need to talk about it lol She was SO mad. I didnt get the big deal. I guess I will when I have children.

Happy Tuesday =D

emilia.

Oh I'm sorry. :/ Tough stuff. It was brave of you to share though!
Xo.

Rachel Elizabeth

That's rough. I never had that happen with my parents, but to this day I can't imagine wanting to have a sit down talk about it with them and I'm married!

Lady Hill

My mom tried to have the talk with me when I was a 19 year old college freshman as well. It was awful. I still blush when I think about it.

I came across your blog while hopping around SITS and was excited to see that we have a lot in common. I'm also an '08 bride who has 2 cats and a dog in a small apartment. I hate spiders, and I love to read.

I'm your newest follower and I'd love for you to stop by and say hello.

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S.I.F.

Oh I can only imagine how awful that was! I would have been mortified!

previouslyinaudible

Soooo funny. Thanks for sharing...haha

chelsea rebecca

oh my goodness! i would be so horrified.
at least its over and you have a good story but i can't imagine living that!!!

michelle_

ahhh i know that feeling !
i bet everyone in their lives have eperienced that moment..
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Maureen

OMG LOL sorry but I can imagine the embarrassment oh Gosh! I could never imagine my parents doing that well because of my asian backgrounds, so we skipped that 'big talk' altogether LOL.

Stopping by from SITS :)

foxy

Oh man, I am totally re-living your embarrassment from this. It's kinda like eating a can of worms, huh?

missy.

oh my heavens.. my parents never caught me.. but there were plenty of times they could have! i remember when i had to tell my mom due to a pregnancy scare - oh my hell that was one heck of a day - and she was all disappointed but nothing further was said.

what a story!

Life of a Doctor's Wife

Oh my gosh! My cheeks are burning for you. My parents would have killed me.

itschaotic

haha.... i have NEVER had that conversation with my parents and I'm pretty sure I NEVER will. we're honestly just not that type of family. they know what's going on, but details? no. lol

they were a little surprised when I finally started telling drunk stories lol

Tiffany

This. sounds. awful.

My mom and I have always had a super open line of communication when it comes to sex. I never experienced this, but I can image it was uncomfortable to say the least.