30 Days of Truth ~ Day 02 | Why Girls Are Weird

Sunday, September 26, 2010

30 Days of Truth ~ Day 02

Day 01 → Something you hate about yourself.
Day 02 → Something you love about yourself.
Day 03 → Something you have to forgive yourself for.
Day 04 → Something you have to forgive someone for.
Day 05 → Something you hope to do in your life.
Day 06 → Something you hope you never have to do.
Day 07 → Someone who has made your life worth living for.
Day 08 → Someone who made your life hell, or treated you like shit.
Day 09 → Someone you didn’t want to let go, but just drifted.
Day 10 → Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know.
Day 11 → Something people seem to compliment you the most on.
Day 12 → Something you never get compliments on.
Day 13 → A band or artist that has gotten you through some tough ass days. (write a letter.)
Day 14 → A hero that has let you down. (letter)
Day 15 → Something or someone you couldn’t live without, because you’ve tried living without it.
Day 16 → Someone or something you definitely could live without.
Day 17 → A book you’ve read that changed your views on something.
Day 18 → Your views on gay marriage.
Day 19 → What do you think of religion? Or what do you think of politics?
Day 20 → Your views on drugs and alcohol.
Day 21 → (scenario) Your best friend is in a car accident and you two got into a fight an hour before. What do you do?
Day 22 → Something you wish you hadn’t done in your life.
Day 23 → Something you wish you had done in your life.
Day 24 → Make a playlist to someone, and explain why you chose all the songs. (Just post the titles and artists and letter)
Day 25 → The reason you believe you’re still alive today.
Day 26 → Have you ever thought about giving up on life? If so, when and why?
Day 27 → What’s the best thing going for you right now?
Day 28 → What if you were pregnant or got someone pregnant, what would you do?
Day 29 → Something you hope to change about yourself. And why.
Day 30 → A letter to yourself, tell yourself EVERYTHING you love about yourself


I am a good friend.

I say this because I have been told numerous times over the last few years that I'm not.  I was even told by a girl that used to be my very best friend (from the time I was 13 till the time I was 25) that I should take a look at all the friends I've lost and realize there is something wrong with me.  THAT hurt more than I can say.  I began to think she must be right, that there must be something about me that causes me to be a terrible friend.

Until recently.  Recently I began to realize that maybe my old friends just didn't change in the same way I did.  Maybe they stopped appreciating me.  Maybe we had misunderstandings that lead to our friendships ending.  And that was BOTH of our faults, not just mine.

Because lately I've been told on a few occasion what a good friend I am.  By people who don't even live anywhere near me, some that I've never even met in person.  I've been told that the advice I give is wonderful, that I'm good at lending an ear when needed, that these people enjoy talking with me and reading my words.  I've been told I am a good friend.

And you know, deep down I know that.  I'm ridiculously loyal to my friends, I fight for them.  I love nothing more than sending little surprises when I know someone's feeling sad.  And even though I've admitted I'm not the best at talking on the phone I AM a fantastic email and letter writing and I have no problem spending all day in a coffee shop or shopping and talking.

Despite what my old friends may have decided about me, I am a good friend.  And it's their loss. 


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33 wonderful thoughts:

Audrey Allure

I agree, people change in different ways but true friends will still stick around :)


You are so right, I only got a few old friends left, but I guess the rest of us changed in different ways, and it was just not meant to be.

Amber Blue Bird

beautiful post and you articulated it so well.

Red Boots

It is sad but true that some friendships come and go. Lives changes, situations change, and the people that we need in our life change. x


I have very few what you would call good friends. This is no bad thing, it's quality not quantity that matters in friendships, & people that say things to hurt you aren't the friends they seem to think they are x


People change and sometimes grow apart, and that is not necessarily always a bad thing!

I bet you are a great friend to those you hold dear :)

Dancing Branflake

I was just thinking about this and all the friends I lost these years and I think "am I not a good friend" But I think you're right. Circumstances change and losses are the fault of two people, not just one. Great post and great challenge.


i loved this post, i'm pretty sure you are an amazing friend. people just grow up and grow apart, it's not anyones "fault".
You seem like a really sweet, caring, open and honest girl.
any girl would be lucky to have you as a friend

Cafe Fashionista

You always seem like you would be a phenomenal friend, Krysten!! :)


this is such a good idea, i think i want to do it also


Love love love this idea, I may have to steal it. What a great post! I recently weeded out a lot of "friends." there may not be as many but the ones I kept are awesome.

vanessa {+greg}

krysten! i mean this from the bottom of my heart... i'm so proud of you for realizing this about yourself. and for being able to talk about it confidently. i can relate to this story very very personally... thank you for sharing :]


Brittany Ann

You are a good friend. As long as you invest in others, you are. No matter what others say. That's an internal issue with them, not you.


The friend I am as an adult is much better than the friend I was as a youngun.


aww I think you're a great friend just from how much we've talked so far!

I think you're right about growing in different ways. I definitely have friends that I was super close with and now- we definitely have different lives. It doesn't mean we're bad friends, life just happens like that.

Helena - A Diary of Lovely

thats a beautiful asset you have!! xo


A good friend is priceless!

Teenage Bride

I am sooo happy you realize this. Anyone would ne lucky to have you as their friend

Melissa B.

The best a person can be is a friend. You're a good person, you know that?


The number of friends that you have does not measure how good a friend you are. Always remember quality over quantity. Cherish what you have. The friends who stuck with you are most probably the ones you'll have for life even if you both change :)



It's great that you've realized that :)


Love this post! You are awesome! Your comments always brighten my day!
I've been told the same things sometimes. I think some just don't know what to do except hurt others when they are hurting.
I think if I knew you in person we would be friends. =)


Being a good friend is a very special thing. It's a great thing to be! :D


I think people and life can change things, and that might be good. It's beautiful that you talked about it so openly & honestly!


You sounds like a very strong person and inspiring. Everyone needs to know that they are a good friend even though some friends left them.

Emily Jane

Absolutely wonderful. Six months ago I was in a group that brought me down and made me feel like I was a bad friend when I knew I wasn't - I would fight for them, help them when they needed something, stand up for them - but something happened to split the group and they made me feel awful. It's totally a blessing in disguise though because now I have new people who are amazing friends and tell me the same :) It's a good thing to realise that you're better off without some people in your life.


This post really was something I needed to hear today.
I've lost alot of my friends lately, they've just drifted away and I dont know why.
But, its good to hear someone else who has experienced the same thing and is still thinking positive.
Thanks for this post :)


Amen sister! People change... no one fault, you just grow apart (unfortunately, sometimes that ends badly).

You know who you are, and if you were a bad friend, you wouldn't have any! I don't know you that well, but I like you - so I think you're doing a fine job darlin'

Destined For Now

I love all of this...so positive!


Don't worry about it... I also hate talking on the phone! If a friend calls me up with a problem, I'll always ask if they want to get a coffee. :)

Oh, My Darling

It's definitely true that sometimes friendships drift or fade, which sucks, but is natural. I'd say that being able to go with that and adjust accordingly as you have is definitely an attribute of a good friend.


What a cool exercise. "30 Days of Truth" is an awesome idea.

I'll look forward to the next 28 installments. :)


Oh my golly gosh - I LOVE THIS IDEA! I just might steal it right now. Have you ever noticed that I steal a lot of your fun blog ideas? You're just awesome like that!

Also, just by reading your blog, I can tell you're a good friend.