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Thursday, September 30, 2010


Yesterday was the 11 year anniversary of my mother-in-law's passing.  I never got to meet her.

I know a lot of women have issues with their mothers-in-law.  I tend to be on The Nest a lot and I've read many a post where a new bride doesn't get along with her mother-in-law for one reason or another.  Sometimes it's for a totally legitimate reason.  But every single time I want to say, "Be thankful for what you have."

From everything I've heard, my mother-in-law was a pretty great woman.  I can only imagine that I would have really liked her and hopefully she would have liked me too.  And it's hard to believe that not only will I never be able to meet her but my children will never meet her either.

I never got to meet her but I still find myself missing her.


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39 wonderful thoughts:

Diana Mieczan

Ohh....I am so sorry...Its always so sad...Kisses,sweetie

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Maria Celina

I'd like to think that she's comforted by the fact that even though you never met her, her own son married someone who has the capacity to love her all the same. =)


that is sad :( it's lovely that you still think about her though...


I am so lucky to have the best not-yet-mother-in-law ever, and I'm so thankfull for that!

And I understand that you would want your bf's mom to like you :)

Scientific Housewife

So sorry to hear. I am blessed to have an amazing mother-in-law but I have friends who do not get along with theirs at all. My mother was never really close to me so it's nice to have another mother in my life.

Helena - A Diary of Lovely

beautiful little tribute, Im sure she was amazing

Dancing Branflake

That is so sweet. I love my mother in law and grateful she is in our lives. She's a great influence on us. Thank you for reminding me of that.


It's so sweet that you miss her even though you've never met her. She must have been a wonderful woman and obviously has a wonderful daughter in law. :)


This is a beautiful post and so sorry that you didn't get to meet her. xx


I am so sorry! This was a really nice thing to say. I'm sure your husband really appreciates that you miss her. Big {{hugs}} sent your way!

Teenage Bride

Hugs and kisses. i am sure she was a lovely woman


Thank you for such a sweet (if bittersweet) post, Krysten! I also will never meet the mother-in-law figure in my life, since my S.O.'s mother died when he was little. It is a something I think about in the same way - you wrote about it so beautifully.


This is so sweet. You're right, we should appreciate what we have while we have it. I'm sure your mother in law is looking down on the beautiful relationship you have with her son and can't wait to see how your story unfolds!

Cafe Fashionista

I'm sorry that you never had the chance to meet her; nevertheless, I'm sure that she would have absolutely adored you!! :)

Shelley Ann

i really dont think people realize how much they have sometimes. im sorry that you never got to meet her...great post though


I'm so sorry you never got to meet her - I'm sure she would have loved you

and isn't that the truth!!- we should all be thankful.


It's so sad when someone dies that was important in a special person's life that we never get to meet. My great-grandma on my grandfather's side died before I was born and I always hear about what an amazing woman she was. I wish I could have known her.

The memories live on, though.


I feel the exact same way and have said the exact same thing to people that complain. My mother-in-law passed away 8 months before my husband and I started dating. My father-in-law compares her to me all the time and that is one of the best compliments I've ever been given. She was amazing.


Awwww... this is so sad, and sweet at the same time. You know, my MIL isn't the easiest person in the world, but I'm thankful to have her. I wish you would've had the chance to meet yours....

la petite coquine

I think she would be so grateful that she has a daughter-in-law who loves her, even without the opportunity to meet her, and it speaks volumes to how much her family loves her.

I'm so grateful to have a wonderful future mother-in-law; she is such a terrific friend and I adore her.


She would've totally loved you!

Audrey Allure

I'm sorry to hear that :( I'm she would really appreciate you saying that about her though :)


Sorry you didn't get to meet her :(

I'm also always shocked by mother-in-law issues. My MIL is amazing!!! We don't always agree, but who cares? She's so loving and fun and generous.

(The Knot is a great place for crazy MIL stories haha)

Amber Blue Bird

Sorry to hear that, I actually have a pretty good relationship with my mother in law, thank goodness.

Connie @ SogniESorrisi

What a touching post. How sad that your husband lost his mother so early. I think we all have issues with all our family members at one time or another and I try to look at my in-laws in the same way. The same way my own mother can annoy me so can my mother-in-law but that's nature--doesn't mean she's the devil.

I feel pretty blessed to have a pretty great MIL.


aw Krysten that's so sad you never got to meet. I'm sure she was an amazing woman though..and obviously she raised a great man!

hip hip gin gin

I'm so sorry. It has to be hard to feel that piece of your family missing. I think what Maria Celina said is right on the money, and I'm sure your husband appreciates your love of her so much.


I'm so sorry for your hubs!

kelli g. { bug miscellany }

what a lovely tribute. :)

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heather yalin

This is so sweet, and with good advice. It was kinda like that for me growing up too, when people would complain about their moms. I was a little gruff about it and made all my friends appreciate such blessings.


I understand how you're feeling. My boyfriend's mum died in January and it hit me really hard. I just kept thinking that it was such a shame that we never got the chance for her to become my mother in law.
And when I said "my boyfriend's mum had died" people thought I wasn't that connected because we aren't married and that's nonsense!
I'm so sorry you never even got to meet your mother in law though. And thank you for writing "be thankful for what you've got".
I know we don't have her nay more, but I'm thank ful to have known her those few short years.

kelly ann

i'm so sorry you never got to meet her... i'm sure she was wonderful, and i know she would have loved you! <3

Crazy Shenanigans

Aw, I'm sorry you never got to meet her.

Camila F.

Such a beautiful post! I'm pretty sure she would have liked you very much. :)


That is so sad. I agree that people should be thankful for what they have. Parents, In-laws, or whoever else might be in their lives.


Awe Krysten I'm sorry for you and your husband... I'm sure your husband appreciates the fact that you miss his mom. I think it's a true sign that you two are suppose to be together. You two are one now so you feel a little of what he feels and that's why you miss her too.

Oh, My Darling

Aw, you are such a thoughtful lady. Your husband must have such a strong support system with a wife like you.