30 Days of Truth ~ Day 04 | Why Girls Are Weird

Sunday, October 10, 2010

30 Days of Truth ~ Day 04

Day 01 → Something you hate about yourself.
Day 02 → Something you love about yourself.
Day 03 → Something you have to forgive yourself for.
Day 04 → Something you have to forgive someone for.
Day 05 → Something you hope to do in your life.
Day 06 → Something you hope you never have to do.
Day 07 → Someone who has made your life worth living for.
Day 08 → Someone who made your life hell, or treated you like shit.
Day 09 → Someone you didn’t want to let go, but just drifted.
Day 10 → Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know.
Day 11 → Something people seem to compliment you the most on.
Day 12 → Something you never get compliments on.
Day 13 → A band or artist that has gotten you through some tough ass days. (write a letter.)
Day 14 → A hero that has let you down. (letter)
Day 15 → Something or someone you couldn’t live without, because you’ve tried living without it.
Day 16 → Someone or something you definitely could live without.
Day 17 → A book you’ve read that changed your views on something.
Day 18 → Your views on gay marriage.
Day 19 → What do you think of religion? Or what do you think of politics?
Day 20 → Your views on drugs and alcohol.
Day 21 → (scenario) Your best friend is in a car accident and you two got into a fight an hour before. What do you do?
Day 22 → Something you wish you hadn’t done in your life.
Day 23 → Something you wish you had done in your life.
Day 24 → Make a playlist to someone, and explain why you chose all the songs. (Just post the titles and artists and letter)
Day 25 → The reason you believe you’re still alive today.
Day 26 → Have you ever thought about giving up on life? If so, when and why?
Day 27 → What’s the best thing going for you right now?
Day 28 → What if you were pregnant or got someone pregnant, what would you do?
Day 29 → Something you hope to change about yourself. And why.
Day 30 → A letter to yourself, tell yourself EVERYTHING you love about yourself.

As I've mentioned, I have a hard time with forgive and forget.  I don't let things go, anyone who knows me at all will tell you that.  So when someone does something that hurts me I have a very hard time moving on, especially if it's someone that I really love.

No relationship is perfect and that definitely includes my relationship with Dustin.  I try pretty hard to not talk about anything negative in our relationship because I feel like that's between just us.  So without going into detail, there are a few things I know I need to forgive Dustin for.  In fact, in my card to him on our anniversary I told him that this year I want to work at getting over the stuff in our past so that we can concentrate on our present and future.

For me, that feels like easier said than done.  I want nothing more than to be able to forgive him and move on.  I hate that certain things still plague me and I know it drives Dustin crazy.  I'm the person who will bring past issues into whatever argument we're having.  And I don't want to be that way.  I know that in order for our marriage to work I need to get over these things.  And I know that I am not perfect either and I've done things too.  How can I expect him to forgive me when I can't do the same?

Today on my blog I want to say that I am going to try my very best to forgive Dustin for what's happened in the past.  I will try my best to not bring the past into future arguments.  I can't make promises because I am not perfect.

 But I will try my hardest.


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20 wonderful thoughts:


all you can do is try!!

i really liked reading this, enjoy your sunday :)

Crazy Shenanigans

It takes time but you can do it! I wish you guys the best!

Miss Kiki Lovelace

forgive and forget....you can do it Krysten.. :) dont let the baggages of the past hinder you from moving forward. xx
have a lovely weekend..


I know how tough that is! The sooner you let go of the past problems, the sooner your future arguments will end :)

Dancing Branflake

Oh man, I am the worst at this! I have the best memory so I tend to hang on the EVERYTHING. Well, with Chris at least. But nothing big has ever happened where I felt a huge need to forgive but it's the little things I can't let go of but totally need to.

Cafe Fashionista

Nobody's perfect; but simply attempting to do what you can to forgive others, or yourself is an improvement. :)


Very nice 'Sunday resolution' and I could get better at moving on from past arguments myself!

Smart Ass Sara

Me too. Except I can't even work through our issues like an adult without couseling which is way too expensive. So until then... Matt and I are standing still. It sucks.

Emily Jane

This is so honest of you, and I admire you for that. I always try and forgive but it's so SO hard to forget and not let it affect you... but you just have to remind yourself that what's happened in the past shouldn't affect how you live your future. :)


You're already way ahead of others in this boat because you recognize it and are self-aware. Good luck in trying to keep with the present!


Oh my goodness. I love this 30 day challenge! I am absolutely going to try it out.. Amazing.


Hannah Katy

Jaime @ La vie...J'aime

I love this post Krysten- forgiving is tough, but good for you :)


I think trying to forgive is a great practice to have, especially with someone you love.

Shelley Ann

i hope you will succeed with this :) it's always hard to forgive and forget, but im sure yall will be happier because of it!


At least your aware of it, that is half the battle! And I'm not sure why your print hasn't arrived yet, NZ mail is slow but it probably should of by now. I'm seeing Tillie tomorrow though so will talk to her about it and we might just pop another one in the mail for you :)

Amber Blue Bird

I hope you are able to eventually forgive him, letting go of the past is the only way to move forward


They say forgiving someone is a gift to yourself, because you are the one who benefits most from it.
it's hard- but good for you.
I know how it is... you can do it!


forgiveness is so hard!
I admire you for putting this out there!


Yah...it's definitely hard to forgive spouses! I mean...we are with them 24/7...that's a lot of time to mess up - haha =)


I TOTALLY want to do the 30 Days of Truth! Do you mind if I steal your idea? I'll totally link you in my blog.