Monday, June 6, 2011

Less Money Mo Problems

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Here's the deal.

The company that Dustin works at hasn't been getting as much business lately.  Its gotten bad enough that a few weeks ago they started cutting hours.  Dustin drives 45 minutes to and from work and basically he would show up and if it was slow they'd send him home.  A waste of money especially with cut hours!  A few days ago they cut a few part time people and have said that at least through June all the full time people would keep their hours and they'd go from there.  However, it's been rough.

You see, first there's the loss of money.  We're okay, of course, I have backup money but it makes me angry because things were going so well.  So to have those loss of hours is really frustrating.  Especially considering that we had a lot of plans this summer and we had to cut a few. 

The other problem is that after last year and my job loss I freaked out.  I never want to be in that spot again and even with the possibility of job loss I got scared.  Last year was so rough and we were completely living paycheck to paycheck.  Sometimes I have no idea how we paid our bills and still managed to eat.  I don't want to go to that place again.  This, of course, caused a lot of tension between Dustin and me.  We've been fighting a lot and it hasn't been fun.  I know he wants me to not worry but that's what I do.

I know somehow some way things will be okay.  But it's still scary.  And frankly I'm really sick of money being the reason we fight and the reason we're stuck where we are.  Seriously it's just stupid.

Hopefully things will pick up at Dustin's job and all will be well.  It's supposed to pick up next month and everyone's jobs have been gauranteed through at least June.

Needless to say thoughts and prayers would be much much appreciated.  You all have helped me so much and I am so thankful to have so many friends all over the world thinking about my little family.

Happy Monday all.

47 wonderful thoughts:

The Non-Student

Money worries are the worst because they make us feel so insecure. Thinking of you, honey, and hoping things turn around soon.

Helena - A Diary of Lovely

i agree with the above comment, money struggles are so painful...

Kathy

i grew up without much money around and i saw how my parents struggled so i vowed never to be in that position. it's tough when things are spread thin but here's hoping that things will turn around for you.

Ang

One day at a time... it's the best way to approach the situation, imo.

Hang in there, you'll get through it, one way or another!

Cafe Fashionista

I'm so sorry to hear about Dustin's cut hours. I am confident that things will pick up for him at work, just like they picked up for you at work, and things will work out in their own time. Just don't lose hope. You're both in my prayers! :)

The Favour Shoppe

Money struggles are the worse! I have been going through the same with my hubbies cut hours from his work :( One day at a time, that's what we've been doing and still trying to entertain the kids without them knowing all the money issues. :( I will be thinking of you! <3

Kattrina

I totally know how that feels. My husband works at a golf course and the hours vary so much (rain, snow, too hot, too many golfers, etc.) and it's so stressful because the money varies from week to week. We pretty much fight about money every week. We both just have very different financial philosophies and it's hard to reconcile them. However, I have much richer friends and they fight about money with their partners. So, I don't think it really has that much to do with how much money people have - it's just always a place of contention. I have faith that you can work through it though! Keep up the positivity!!!

SG to SP

Girl I TOTALLY get you. In fact I was texting the hubby this morning and telling him not to buy anything until he gets paid on Friday. It's amazing, we both have good paying jobs but yet we still basically are paycheck to paycheck. It's amazing how owning a house can really suck your funds. And being the one that is in charge of paying of the bills is so stressful. So I understand and I hope things get better (for us both) soon!

Meghan

I am sending lots of positive vibes your way! Just know that you aren't alone, girl! Everyone has been there at one point or another. Mike lost his job two months before we got married! I remember being so stressed out about trying to pay for the wedding and thinking about where we would live, etc. It will all work out - I just know it:)

Jessie Szmanda

Ohhh Krysten I am so so sorry! Praying for you 2 right now and sending you good thoughts and strength dear friend!

gringationcancun

Sending some prayers your way! You guys have a great partnership, tons of friends, amazing families and a beautiful home. Everything will be fine :) Hang in there!

Ashley

ugh! stupid money! That was (and still sometimes is) a huge source of contention between the husband and I. We have dealt with some tough times and him being out of a job =/ all in the first year of marriage. Thankfully things are much brighter right now.
I am sorry you guys are going through this and that it seems so gloomy...my thoughts and prayers are with you during this hard time my dear!

Jessica

What a crappy situation! I'll be thinking of you guys, hope things pick up.

daisychain

I have my fingers crossed that everything works out for you and Dustin x

ilene @ muchloveilly

so sorry, friend. will def. be praying for you!

Claire

I earn about half what i was earning 5 years ago. This is a life style choice and i am no better or worse off money wise because of it. we have a lot of friends who are like us, low mortgage, (not because we are rich but because we choose NOT to buy the big house and have the flash extension). We also have a lot of friends who have a lot of money. And you can be sure that we are the happier ones. I have never had savings, i just live day to day.

KellyMichelle

Sorry you're going through this, we have totally been there too and it is no fun :( on the bright side, you have won the sunshine award at my blog today so stop by to pick it up! Hope it brightens your day

Mars

that's the worse. I hope things start looking up for you guys and just know, hard work always pays off!! I'll keep you in my prayers. HAPPY MONDAY :)

Erin {pughs' news}

No wonder you two have been having a rough time. Money problems always amplify the little problems... and make them feel so much bigger.

I'm thinking of you, K!

Dancing Branflake

This is why I love your blog. I mean, the title says it all and ti definitely paints a real picture of what married life is about. Thank you for this.

Stephany

Money problems are terrible. That's the main thing my mom and dad fought about and I know the stress worrying about money can put on people. It's no fun at all. :(

I do hope things pick up at D's job soon, so he can go back to a normal paycheck!

la petite coquine

I think men and women fundamentally cope differently with money anxiety-I'm always checking our bank balances and John doesn't even know what his login is. You guys are just looking at this with a different degree of anxiety, and that's just hard. But you'll get past it.

xoxoxox, Lena

Ruby Girl

Hang in there, girly. How lame and boring would marriage be if there weren't rocky times like this to make you stronger, right? I'm sure it's tough in the moment. I'll be praying for you! <3 EverRubyGirl.blogspot.com

Summer Athena

i adore you. so much. i do. i do. i do.

Dana Leigh

Positive thoughts and vibes being sent your way! I think most of us have been through some major hiccup that involves money and our livlihood but I know you'll get through it and somehow everything always turns out ok, eventually. Chin up, chica!

Vanisha @ Vanisha's Life In...Fiji

Sending you lots of hugs and happy thoughts :) I know things will work out for you, they always do, just keep positive and know that you have heaps of friends. I joke with Patrick and say that income with us when we're consulting/freelancing is either feast or feminine! That's a stretch but still :) Happy thoughts Krysten :)

Mom Taxi Julie

Wouldn't it be nice if we didn't have to worry about money?

Amber Blue Bird

This situation would stress me out too and I know if someone told me "Oh dont worry about it, everything will work out" I would STILL worry. I guess what I am trying to say is that although its okay to worry (and we are going to do it) just dont let it consume you. Try to live in the present as much as you can.

Kristin

I know the job loss fear all too well! Prayers going up that things will get better and his job will be safe!

Melanie's Randomness

I loss my job and then my mother lost hers. I luckily found a job but it was rough. I've been there hun. I'm praying you guys end up okay. I hope Dustin gets more work. I really do. Good luck, your not alone in the struggling.

Jen

Money worries are so awful - they really affect so many other parts of our lives, don't they?

I hope things look up for you ASAP! Know that you aren't alone.

KimBerly

We are in the same spot with money problems right now. It's so hard. B was out of work for 9 months because of his cancer and just started back to work about 2 weeks ago. I don't think I've ever been this poor. It's sad because I think my dreams of staying a stay at home Mom might be a thing of the past.
I will send a prayer your way girl!

Nikki

I'm sorry. So fruterating. I hope he's looking for another job. Plan B is always nice to have in place!

Anni

That's so frustrating. :( I hope things get better - I'll send some good thoughts your way!

Money is so tough. We've all been there, and it's probably the easiest thing to fight about because it's just so stressful, and everyone has different ideas about how to manage it. But I know you two can do it.

steph anne

You're in my thoughts & I've got my fingers crossed for you both! It sucks and I know the feeling. I'm always worried that my husband will lose his job or even I'll lose my job because we both don't have enough money saved to live for a few months if one of us loses our jobs. We're still young but hopefully things will get better for all of us soon!

Lindsay @ My Happy Plan

Fighting about money sucks, and having to worry about a potential job loss is even suckier :(

Just know that getting through it will make you guys so much stronger. And hopefully one day you'll be able to look back and be so proud of how you made it work. Lots of positive thoughts your way :):)

Kristi

I hear ya. I am the sole bread-winner in our household and in the summer I barely make a fraction of my salary. Times are very tough right now. I wish us both luck in our financial situations!

Layla

We're in that position now....I'm unemployed, we're living paycheck to paycheck and off of my student loans, and we have loads of medical bills from the second surgery that will be coming in any day now...it definitely leads to tension and the arguments are understandable. It's hard, but sometimes we just have to remind the other that we're both on the same side here, and that we need to ban together instead of fighting. I hope things turn around for you guys and his job picks up! You're right that everything will be fine...I firmly believe that! It helps me see the light at the end of this really long tunnel. :)

Rhianne

it so hard for everyone at the moment, we're in the same situation in that our fights and worries are always about money - our job situations haven't changed but everything seems to be getting more and more expensive and are wages aren't going anywhere...

I know its hard not to worry, I worry so much too and a little worry is always good for being sensible but these days I'm trying to enjoy the little free things more and more to try and balance it all out.

I hope things start to look up for you

Chic 'n Cheap Living

Thoughts and prayers always. You are on the right track with school and picking up more hours at work. We control all we can and save up for what we can't control!


xoxo,
Chic 'n Cheap Living

kelli g. { bug miscellany }

hugs!

Connie @ SogniESorrisi

I'm a worrier too and sometimes that in and of itself causes stress because my husband just doesn't--worry that is. And sometimes it drives me crazy and makes me think I have to worry enough for both of us. But I guess that's why we compliment each other (or at least I hope so).

Two years ago my husband decided to start his own business and it's a scary and exciting decision to make. If you succeed you know you did it on your own terms but overall there is so much more to stress about than just working a 9-5 and going home. Hopefully we'll look back on these early days in years to come with knowing fondness.

Erika

Good thoughts & prayers going up for U guys. sorry you're dealing with that! Sounds like you're prepared & have your bases covered tho, which is great.

Jennifer

Definitely praying for your husbands job situation!

Crazy Little World Of Mine

Sending a major hug your way girl. Good things will come your way, and even though this may sound corny and all and I'm sure you've heard it many time from so many people, I do believe it is going to happen.

Job situations like these are no fun. Praying for both of you, that soon something good will happen and you no longer have to worry that much. Harder said than done and all I know but I'm trying to think positive these days!!!

xoxo

Jess

Money worries are the worst! I'm so sorry you guys are going through this (again). With going from two salaries to one and the new baby, money has definitely been a worry for us recently. I try to tell myself that in 10 years I will look back on these struggles and smile. My prayer for you and my lil family is that these struggles make us stronger. Big hugs, girls!

Crazy Shenanigans-JMO

When stuff like that with work starts happening it's always scary but hopefully everything will be ok!!!