Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Why You Don't Tattoo Names (or dates) On Yourself

A few years ago I did something stupid.  Nearly as stupid as tattooing someone's name on me.

I got my wedding date tattooed on my wrist.


At the time I never envisioned divorce.  I always told myself that marriage was an important thing and that Dustin and I would weather whatever was thrown at us.  Except that we couldn't.

So now I have this tattoo.  And I want to cover it up.
At first I thought maybe I would leave it as a reminder.  However, I don't want to go through life having people ask me what it means.  And if I ever marry again... well, that just isn't fair to whoever I would be marrying.

The problem is that I need to come up with an idea that A) Will cover up the original tat and B) Won't be super huge.  I have ideas for OTHER tats that I want - a stack of books on the back of my neck, Hedwig (from Harry Potter) behind my ear, Monte's paw print on my foot.  But for the life of me my creative mind can't come up with anything for my wrist.

I was thinking maybe something that has to do with strength and/or loving oneself.  But because I am not the most visually artistic person I'm having trouble envisioning anything.

So, my dear readers, I ask you: if you were me, what would you choose?

44 wonderful thoughts:

catwalk criminal

make something different out of it, or let it be removed! ♥

The Blonde Duck

What about a heart with wings around it, like lifting up your own love, or a strand of flowers?

Robin @ our semi organic life

That is a tough one! Have you gone to a professional to get their opinion on what would cover it best but still be attractive? I like hearts or a feather myself.

Kristina

How about the word strength? What comes from that date is your strength that you've displayed!

Cafe Fashionista

What about a butterfly? Something to signify your freedom and growth. :)

Christina

i say just get it removed...don't cover it up.

Linds

You know what girl, you could leave it! It can represent the day that changed you! You are a totally different girl than the one that got married on that day. So much stronger and wiser....just a thought.

SG to SP

I thought about tattooing my wedding date somewhere on my body but ultimately I think the only name or date I would tattoo on my body would be my child's name or birthday because you really just never know when it comes to relationships.

As for what to do, I'm not really artistic or creative so I'm not much help. I think you should go to a professional tattoo artist and get their opinion, they will probably have some great ideas.

Kaleigh Meduri

I'm dealing with a tattoo that have significance to a person right now as well. Unfortunately my tattoo is about 3" x 2" and in a place that is VERY difficult to make a cover. :( I'm bummed but I think I might have figured out. I know how difficult it is to find something that work, I hope you will be able to. :)

TMRK

Hej, I like your pictures and your blog is really really cute.

Check out mine if u like :)

Ang

I agree about consulting a professional.. see what they think before you completely make up your mind. Other than that... look at Pinterest... I've found a ton of tattoos there and, while you don't have to copy any of them exactly, it's a good source for ideas!

ilene @ muchloveilly

i'm not a pro at this, but i probably would get it removed instead of covered-up...but then i hear tattoo removal is more painful that getting the actual tattoo. eeek - i'm such a baby when i comes to needles! hehe.

Jessie Szmanda

If it were me I would put a cross there, and have the horizontal part where the date is!

Carrie

you'll probably need to talk with your tattoo artist to see exactly what & how big the new "corrective" tattoo needs to be, but if you're asking for suggestions :) bracelets, feather or your favorite flower would be cute.

I want to see after pix!!

Sandy a la Mode

awww i saw either get it removed or make something different out of it~

Sarah

I would get it removed if it were me. Then, if you can still see it faintly after the removal, it will be much easier to add a new tat over it.

Amber Blue Bird

oh gosh thats a tough one. have you looked into just having it removed?

LenoreNeverM♡re

hard to recommend...but I always want a tiny sea horse tattoo for myself!
Such magical creature~*

Erika

I like the idea of the strength of losing a loved one. I have Resilienton my wrist & it's for a reason/reminder :)
XO

Erika

resilient*

e@thisnotedlife

i liked someone else's idea of changing it into something signifying strength as that is what the date ultimate gave you. You don't want to completely erase it because it did shape who you are now. Keep thinking about it

Elle Sees

I've got a tutorial next week on hoe to cover it up!
I swear by Hard Candy's glamoflague...cheap and easy.
As for real ideas, my answer is always birds. Or branches. Or both.
And thanks for the birthday wishes :)

Deidre

i have no good ideas, sorry.

Mrs. Pancakes

I hope you can turn it into something awesome!! I would to see how it turns out!!

Candace Stevenson

I am in love with the hedwig idea. And I would do exactly what you're doing, put something there about loving yourself! You're strong and independent and you deserve a friendly reminder :)
Lovely Little Rants

la petite coquine

Definitely seek some professional advice-they'll probably have a better idea about what will cover the date. But removing it doesn't seem like such a terrible idea either-you don't need to punish yourself by keeping it if it makes you unhappy.

steph anne

I think you should put Monte's paw print on your wrist instead of on your foot. It'd look cuter on your wrist!

Dirt On The Rocks

something small and simple would be nice over this. it's definitely easy to cover this up if you go to a good tattoo artist. they can help you out :) good luck. i have my son's name on my wrist it's quite big.

i actually have my moms name on my ankle but it was done so poorly i dont want to get it covered up or something

Helena - A Diary of Lovely

Cant see it either, what a struggle, have you consider removing it all together?

Liz

Go see your tattoo artist but as someone who is moderately tattooed, I can tell you right now if you get it covered up its going to have to be something significantly bigger and darker in colour. Most likely soething floral like roses. Good luck! <3

Leesh

I heard removing a tattoo is painful. Maybe you are better off just covering it up. My friend had a tattoo on her wrist she hated. She finally covered it up with a purple lotus flower, it's beautiful and you can't even see her old tattoo. Maybe consider a flower that has courage or strength meaning behind it. Or reborn or something like that.

Jaime @ La vie...J'aime

it wil come to you..i wouldn't rush it, though i am sure you are anxious to cover it up. you are learning and growing from your marriage and this experience of going through a divorce. perhaps it's a good reminder for now and sometime soon you will know the way to cover it .

love the new blog look btw :)

brooke field

i love your perspective.

Vanisha @ Vanisha's Life In...Australia

Oh dear, I'm not very creative, but if I were in your situation I would get it surgically removed!

Alexa

Shoot...the day your divorce goes through? Okay obviously not...what if you turned the numbers into something else...like worked with them? I have no clue what I'm talking about, but I swear if it comes to me I'll let you know. Either way, I want to know what you decide! xo

Bree

Huh. This is quite a tough decision. I'm not sure what would work for you. Although I suggest definitely going for a tat that means something to you personally. :)

Good luck and let us know what you decide!

XoXo, Bree
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Meghan

Hmm. I am not sure, but I always love symbols and characters that mean something, like love/peace/strength/etc!

two birds

maybe some small tree? or branch? like a root...strength? it's always hard with tattoos...but obviously at the time, you didn't even think twice about it!

Angela [Simply Simple Me]

That is such a tough decision! Have you decided on what you want to do yet?

Kristin

I think removal would be my vote. : )

Alexandra

Saw the more recent post and I fully agree a coverup is a better idea. I don't think most people have any idea what really goes into removal, but a friend of mine had to get one done and it takes a LOT of really expensive, really painful sessions. If you have any idea of something you want to cover it with and an artist who can do it, it's a much better option than removal.

missy.

wow i can't believe how many people said to remove it. i think covering it up will be the best way to go. i've covered up one of my tats and a part of it still shows through and reminds me of everything i've gone through since then. your choice obvisouly, but i know you will cover it up :) xoxo

KimBerly

You could leave it and put something with it. It was a significant part of your life. You could add strength under it or you could have a heart with wings which shows your heart is free to love again.

Selma @ Crazy Little World Of Mine

Covering it up will be best, or creating something new out of it. Remember, your wedding day is part of your life, too. Yes, maybe the marriage isn't anymore, but it has shaped you into the wonderful person you are today. It is after all, your life, and that day was a significant day in it. :) Think about it girl.

HUGS.